While gratitude is one of my favorite spiritual practices, there can be a downside.
Last year, I got into some debt. However, I was determined not to let it get me down. I used my daily gratitude practice to pull myself out of my post debt blues. I told myself that I was grateful for my finances when I was secretly annoyed and upset over my situation. After all, wouldn’t it have been incredibly unspiritual for me to admit that I wasn’t particularly grateful for my circumstances at that time?
Actually, I was doing a disservice to myself because I was using gratitude to suppress feelings that needed to be acknowledged.
When you are faced with a difficult situation in your life and you are struggling to be grateful for it, take some time to acknowledge those feelings. When doing your gratitude practice, focus on those things that you’re genuinely grateful for. After you’ve dealt with the reasons why it is difficult to find gratitude for certain aspects of your life, see if you can find some small reason to be grateful for that particular situation.
By the way, I’m genuinely grateful for you, whether you are an occasional reader or faithful follower!
You’ve probably read and listened to hours of content on how to attract abundance into your life. I’m sure you’ve applied some of these things in your own life.
However, you’re not getting consistent results, and you become frustrated and may even believe that an abundant life just isn’t for you.
That’s not true at all! In fact, there may only be three simple words in between you and your dreams.
I can’t because are three words that have the power to stop you from experiencing the abundance that you deserve, but only if you give them that power.
These three words are causing you to focus on perceived limitations and temporary outer conditions. Instead, find ways to focus on how you can move forward. You may start to notice opportunities around you.
Earlier in my business, I reached out to a friend and asked her to help me film a video for my Facebook page that would describe my services.
After several attempts, I finally had something that I could use. One of my family members was horrified and tried to get me to take down the video. She said that the camera made me look as though I had a big chin.
I began to feel insecure because I just wanted a perfect profile video. However, the voice of my intuition urged me to leave the video alone. After all, it was the voice of my inner critic that demanded perfection, and my family member reflected it back to me. It’s easier to let go of perfectionism when we can find evidence that we are more than adequate.
I’m functioning just fine with my big chin, thank you very much.
I’m not good enough. Who am I to do this work? What if no one wants to hear what I have to say?
This is the exact inner dialog that kept me stuck in the illusion commonly known as writer’s block. As a result, creating content for my business was pushed to the bottom of my to-do list. I sincerely apologize for the lack of content lately.
I allowed my mind to convince me of my inadequacy as both a healer and writer..
The ever-present critic can sneak up on us. As a result, our goals and desires can be postponed or completely forgotten. This doesn’t have to be your reality.
Silencing the inner critic takes time, lots of compassion for yourself, willingness to question your beliefs, and tons of patience. I know you can do this!
Yesterday, I was taking a walk when I noticed something. On two separate occasions, my path was almost completely blocked by obstacles.
There was a sidewalk that was completely blocked by several cars. On that occasion, someone helped me to navigate around them so I could continue along my usual route. On the second occasion, several bikes were blocking the entrance to where I was trying to go.
This time, someone moved them out of the way so that I could pass.
I began to think about how the external environment can be a reflection of our inner dialog and our perceptions of what is going on in our lives.
When faced with perceived obstacles in life, we have at least three choices. We can choose to ask the divine or another person to assist us to navigate around it. We can also work with Spirit to remove obstacles from our path. Sometimes, we may choose to abandon the obstacle-ridden path altogether. Either way, you are exactly where you are supposed to be.
At an early age, we’re often conditioned to remain in a constant state of overwhelm. Instead of focusing on the task at hand, we want to know the outcome of the entire project. How much more progress would we make if we focused on what was right in front of us?
In school, I’ve been asked where I see myself in five years. What if we were taught to take one small step toward our goals and then trust that the rest would unfold as it is meant to? Imagine what would happen if you took action from a place of stillness rather than fear and overwhelm.
I’ve heard people say that they’re not creative. I would have to disagree with that statement. If you believe that you’re a spiritual being in a physical body, then you are creative in some way.
You may not write a bestseller, compose a beautiful symphony, or paint a single picture in your lifetime. However, we have a spark of divinity within us, and the divine is the creative force in the universe. Therefore, it is only natural for that creative spark of divinity to express itself through us.
What would happen if musicians stopped following their soul’s urge to create? What would’ve happened if scientists like Albert Einstein kept their ideas to themselves? What would your life be like if you didn’t have a hand in creating it? Now, let’s go out there and create something amazing.
During the past year, I lost a close friend to cancer, found out that two of my friends have to leave their home, and made some business decisions that sent me into debt. On a more positive note, I began to read the Akashic records, gained clarity on how to move forward, increased my confidence as a medium, and gained even more appreciation for the people who have been supporting me on my journey.
Mostly, I’m learning to dance with the constant ebb and flow of life while allowing Spirit to take the lead. I’m learning to have compassion for myself. This is much more appealing than the state of resistance that we fall into at times.
It can be scary to live from the heart. It requires strength, courage and determination. When you choose this path, know that some people may not understand you and may even judge you. Some days, you may even feel lonely or slightly depressed. These periods are followed by the excitement and joy that comes from following your heart.
You may want to give up on your dreams, and there are going to be times when you’ll do anything to achieve them. This path can definitely feel like an emotional roller coaster at times, but it’s okay. Remember that you don’t have to do it alone.
Have you ever realized that sometimes, we treat others better than we treat ourselves? For example, I wouldn’t yell at another person in order to tell her what she should’ve done. I definitely wouldn’t tell that person that she wasn’t good enough or that she can’t do something.
However, I’ve often caught myself saying these very things to myself. We wouldn’t allow others to treat us that way, so why do we do that to ourselves?
I challenge every one of you to notice these thoughts as they come up. There is no need to judge them, though. Instead, know that you have the ability to choose a more empowering thought next time.
Whether you are a medium or not, you may have experienced the fear of visibility from time to time. I have been guided to share this part of my story with you in order to encourage you to stop hiding your light from the world. You were given certain abilities and strengths for a reason.
When I was 7 or 8 years old, I had my first experience with spirit communication that I could remember. I was woken up by something during the night, and I got up to get a glass of water. I went back to bed, and tried to fall asleep again. I was relaxed, but I was still awake when I had this experience. I saw a bright light coming toward me. My eyes are especially sensitive to bright lights, but this particular light didn’t hurt my eyes at all. Somehow, I knew that it was pure white light. For some reason, I was drawn to this light. Then, I heard gentle whispering in my ear. The voice said that he would always love me and would never leave me. Somehow, I knew that this being was Jesus. I was so excited because I couldn’t wait to tell everyone in church that Jesus was real.
I woke my mother to tell her about my experience, and she was excited for me. Although my brother didn’t believe me, I knew that I experienced something real. After that, I was encouraged to keep those experiences to myself. This, among other experiences that were unrelated to spirit communication, led me to develop the belief that it isn’t safe to be seen.
Through inner work, I have learned to release this fear and stop hiding my light from the world.
Several weeks ago, I was taking my daily walk when I happened to meet up with a friend. Instead of walking, I ended up going to her house for dinner. She invited me to a jazz club where her friend’s band was performing that night.
Since I knew this particular friend of hers, I decided to be spontaneous and go with her. As we were driving home from that event, I commented to her that I was glad that I decided to be spontaneous because I got to enjoy three of my favorite things. I also had another observation about that night. I wasn’t stuck in the past or planning the rest of the week in my head.
I was fully engaged in the present and enjoying every minute of it. It’s important to learn to do this because when we are engaged in the present moment, we’re not concerned with past mistakes, worrying about the future, or engaging in our fears. When we live outside of the present moment, it can take us away from seeing the truth of who we really are. Outside of the present moment, it’s difficult to see situations and people from an objective point of view. Also, when we are ruminating about the past or worrying about the future, it’s difficult to experience joy. Take a moment today to practice presence, and you’ll be pleasantly surprised at the outcome.
Yesterday, I had the opportunity to attend an arts inclusion event with people who are blind and visually impaired as well as sighted volunteers. In honor of Earth day, we were given clay and asked to sculpt something that reminds us of our planet. I decided to attempt a cat sculpture. I started with the head and formed a little cat face. I shaped its little ears, little nose and a mouth that was open as if the cat was about to meow.
Then, I created the cat’s body, its legs, and finally the tail. After I had finished, the cat felt slightly deformed. When I tried to fix it, the ears fell off, the mouth completely disappeared, the tail fell off, and the legs collapsed into themselves. What would’ve happened if I didn’t try to fix it? I realize that it is easy to have some resistence to the concept of being present, and it’s not always easy to do. However, it’s a much more enjoyable way to live life.
Instead of trying to make everything perfect and forcing life to comply with our expectations, maybe we need to start by accepting ourselves and circumstances exactly as they are right now. Then, we can decide whether changes need to be made at all.
Have you ever prayed for something and/or set an intention, but you never seem to receive an answer? It can be extremely frustrating and disappointing, especially when we are going through a difficult time.
However, I encourage you to consider another perspective. When we send out our prayers and intentions into the universe, are we open to receiving the subtle signs that our prayers are being answered even before we speak them? Perhaps we’re engaging in our constant mind chatter. There have been times when the constant mind chatter has kept me up at night, and it has even kept me from hearing my intuition.
Another reason that we may not believe that our prayers are being answered may be that we are expecting the answer to come to us in a certain way.For example, we may expect our answer to come to us in a dream. However, it may come to us through a song on the radio, a vision, or a gut feeling. If we are deadest on receiving the answer in a dream, we may miss the message altogether and assume that Spirit didn’t hear our prayers and intentions. As a result, we continue to repeat the cycle of asking, expecting a specific answer to come in a neat little package, and miss the message altogether.
Also, there are times when the answer is that we need to wait for something better, or maybe it just isn’t the right time. When I become frustrated by so-called unanswered prayers, Spirit assures me that they’re always listening.
When making an important decision, how do we know which choice is the “right” one? After all, what if that one decision will affect you for the rest of your life? Here are a few things to consider.
First of all, we live in a society which tends to judge things in black and white terms such as right and wrong. While this may be useful in some situations, it can cause us to become confused and indecisive. Each moment of every day, we are making choices. While some choices can lead to unwanted consequences and lead us down another path. Was it really the wrong decision, or did it give you the opportunity to choose something different the next time around?
Here is another thing to consider. When making decisions, do you make them from a place of fear and doubt? If the answer to that question is yes, you have an opportunity to explore your fears and doubts. Then, when you have started to work through the fear, you can make a more empowering decision.
Although I have resisted journaling as a spiritual practice for a while, I have to admit that it is a powerful tool for healing and growth. Recently, I’ve been inspired to use journaling as a tool for setting intentions for the day. This exercise only takes a few minutes, and it can be very powerful.
Either first thing in the morning or prior to going to bed, I journal about the upcoming day as if I’ve already experienced it. After completing this exercise, I’ve found that a majority of my intentions had come to pass. However, there were one or two of my intentions that haven’t manifested because I allowed my mind to convince me that they wouldn’t happen. If you plan to try this exercise, don’t be discouraged if your intentions don’t manifest right away.
Sometimes, we allow our minds to sabotage our efforts. Also, the universe needs time to work its magic.
I have an important message for you today. You’re not broken. All of us are whole because we are divine sacred beings. How can I say these things with confidence?
There was a period of my life where I suffered from severe depression. I didn’t want to get out of bed in the morning, and I wondered if life meant anything at all. I felt that it would never end.
During this time, my father passed away, I lost my favorite cat to a debilitating brain condition, and I couldn’t see my life improving any time soon. In fact, if someone had tried to convince me that I wasn’t broken, I wouldn’t have believed them.
However, I have chosen a more empowering perspective. I truly believe that this dark period of my life acted as a catalyst for remembering my own inherent divinity and beginning to return to our natural state of wholeness. I know that I am a work in progress, and that’s okay. I also know that I’m not broken, and I never was. However, I don’t want you to simply take my word for it. I want you to experience this truth for yourself. You deserve it!
For me, 2017 was a year of ups, downs, and everything in between. Did I reach the goals that I set at the beginning of 2017? No, and that’s okay.
I had the pleasure of entering a beauty pageant for blind women, which was way out of my comfort zone. However, by taking that chance, I gave myself the opportunity to expand my social circle, increase my confidence, and have some fun all at the same time. I made a new friend who lived in the same small town as me for years, but I was too shy to get to know people.
Also, I pushed past some of my insecurities and increased my online presence. I gained clarity around what I wanted in my life and my business.
Also, I released a lot of stuck emotions that were holding me back. No, I did not reach my goals in 2017, but I built some really strong foundations that will help me to reach my goals in 2018.
If you didn’t reach your 2017 goals and intentions, have compassion for yourself. Perhaps you needed to accomplish some things before you could achieve your goals. Maybe those goals and intentions weren’t meant for you in the first place because you were meant to receive something even better. Either way, here’s to an amazing and blessed 2018!
Have you ever said or thought phrases like, “That’s not good enough?”
While there are people who can easily shove these occasional thoughts aside, there are others who are holding onto an underlying belief that they’re not enough.
When I was in grade school and the teacher would ask me a question, I would claim that I didn’t know the answer even when I did. I was afraid to speak up in class because my answers might not be good enough. There were times when I felt that I needed to minimize my success and downplay my accomplishments because I wanted people to like me. Otherwise, I just wasn’t good enough. These are just some examples of how this belief can show up for us in our lives.
However, this does not have to be the case for any of us. First of all, see this belief for the lie that it is.
After all, if we are infinite spiritual beings who happen to be residing in human bodies at the moment, how can we truly be anything less than enough? Also, it can be helpful to explore the reasons for adopting these beliefs. During this process, I encourage you to seek support in order to deal with the strong feelings that may come up. While I still have this belief popping up from time to time, I try to keep things in perspective and have lots of compassion for myself. Sometimes, this is the best that we can do.
What does it really mean to have a healthy sense of self-love? It requires us to give ourselves a break when we make mistakes. After, mistakes are simply opportunities for learning and growth.
When we love and value ourselves, we are more likely to follow our hearts instead of our endless lists of fears, excuses, and self-doubt. When we learn to love ourselves more, we stop taking action from a place of obligation.
Lastly, when we become more loving and compassionate toward ourselves, it becomes easier to see the divinity in everything. We become happier and more peaceful. How can you love and value yourself even more today than you did yesterday?