After several years of allowing others to take advantage of my kindness, I learned to develop boundaries for myself. When you develop clear boundaries, you are affirming to yourself and others that you have respect for yourself. Having clear boundaries in your life can insure that you have the time and energy to devote to things that are important to you, rather than allowing others to monopolize your time and drain your energy.
Setting clear boundaries can be as simple as designating a few minutes each day for meditation, walking, or just being by yourself. My friends and acquaintances know that I will not, under any circumstance, answer my phone after 10 PM because that is my quiet time before preparing for bed. Sometimes, you may need to say no to someone’s demands on your time. This can be done in a way that is loving and firm. While some people may not respond favorably to your attempts at setting clear boundaries with them, in time, they may gain even more respect for you. You are also modeling assertiveness and clear boundaries for them.
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