You shouldn’t have!

Have you ever realized that sometimes, we treat others better than we treat ourselves? For example, I wouldn’t yell at another person in order to tell her what she should’ve done. I definitely wouldn’t tell that person that she wasn’t good enough or that she can’t do something.
However, I’ve often caught myself saying these very things to myself. We wouldn’t allow others to treat us that way, so why do we do that to ourselves?
I challenge every one of you to notice these thoughts as they come up. There is no need to judge them, though. Instead, know that you have the ability to choose a more empowering thought next time.

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coffee, chocolate, and music

Several weeks ago, I was taking my daily walk when I happened to meet up with a friend. Instead of walking, I ended up going to her house for dinner. She invited me to a jazz club where her friend’s band was performing that night.
Since I knew this particular friend of hers, I decided to be spontaneous and go with her. As we were driving home from that event, I commented to her that I was glad that I decided to be spontaneous because I got to enjoy three of my favorite things. I also had another observation about that night. I wasn’t stuck in the past or planning the rest of the week in my head.
I was fully engaged in the present and enjoying every minute of it. It’s important to learn to do this because when we are engaged in the present moment, we’re not concerned with past mistakes, worrying about the future, or engaging in our fears. When we live outside of the present moment, it can take us away from seeing the truth of who we really are. Outside of the present moment, it’s difficult to see situations and people from an objective point of view. Also, when we are ruminating about the past or worrying about the future, it’s difficult to experience joy. Take a moment today to practice presence, and you’ll be pleasantly surprised at the outcome.

accepting what is

Yesterday, I had the opportunity to attend an arts inclusion event with people who are blind and visually impaired as well as sighted volunteers. In honor of Earth day, we were given clay and asked to sculpt something that reminds us of our planet. I decided to attempt a cat sculpture. I started with the head and formed a little cat face. I shaped its little ears, little nose and a mouth that was open as if the cat was about to meow.
Then, I created the cat’s body, its legs, and finally the tail. After I had finished, the cat felt slightly deformed. When I tried to fix it, the ears fell off, the mouth completely disappeared, the tail fell off, and the legs collapsed into themselves. What would’ve happened if I didn’t try to fix it? I realize that it is easy to have some resistence to the concept of being present, and it’s not always easy to do. However, it’s a much more enjoyable way to live life.
Instead of trying to make everything perfect and forcing life to comply with our expectations, maybe we need to start by accepting ourselves and circumstances exactly as they are right now. Then, we can decide whether changes need to be made at all.

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You’re not broken!

I have an important message for you today. You’re not broken. All of us are whole because we are divine sacred beings. How can I say these things with confidence?
There was a period of my life where I suffered from severe depression. I didn’t want to get out of bed in the morning, and I wondered if life meant anything at all. I felt that it would never end.
During this time, my father passed away, I lost my favorite cat to a debilitating brain condition, and I couldn’t see my life improving any time soon. In fact, if someone had tried to convince me that I wasn’t broken, I wouldn’t have believed them.
However, I have chosen a more empowering perspective. I truly believe that this dark period of my life acted as a catalyst for remembering my own inherent divinity and beginning to return to our natural state of wholeness. I know that I am a work in progress, and that’s okay. I also know that I’m not broken, and I never was. However, I don’t want you to simply take my word for it. I want you to experience this truth for yourself. You deserve it!

looking back and reaching forward

For me, 2017 was a year of ups, downs, and everything in between. Did I reach the goals that I set at the beginning of 2017? No, and that’s okay.
I had the pleasure of entering a beauty pageant for blind women, which was way out of my comfort zone. However, by taking that chance, I gave myself the opportunity to expand my social circle, increase my confidence, and have some fun all at the same time. I made a new friend who lived in the same small town as me for years, but I was too shy to get to know people.
Also, I pushed past some of my insecurities and increased my online presence. I gained clarity around what I wanted in my life and my business.
Also, I released a lot of stuck emotions that were holding me back. No, I did not reach my goals in 2017, but I built some really strong foundations that will help me to reach my goals in 2018.
If you didn’t reach your 2017 goals and intentions, have compassion for yourself. Perhaps you needed to accomplish some things before you could achieve your goals. Maybe those goals and intentions weren’t meant for you in the first place because you were meant to receive something even better. Either way, here’s to an amazing and blessed 2018!

That’s not good enough!

Have you ever said or thought phrases like, “That’s not good enough?”
While there are people who can easily shove these occasional thoughts aside, there are others who are holding onto an underlying belief that they’re not enough.
When I was in grade school and the teacher would ask me a question, I would claim that I didn’t know the answer even when I did. I was afraid to speak up in class because my answers might not be good enough. There were times when I felt that I needed to minimize my success and downplay my accomplishments because I wanted people to like me. Otherwise, I just wasn’t good enough. These are just some examples of how this belief can show up for us in our lives.
However, this does not have to be the case for any of us. First of all, see this belief for the lie that it is.
After all, if we are infinite spiritual beings who happen to be residing in human bodies at the moment, how can we truly be anything less than enough? Also, it can be helpful to explore the reasons for adopting these beliefs. During this process, I encourage you to seek support in order to deal with the strong feelings that may come up. While I still have this belief popping up from time to time, I try to keep things in perspective and have lots of compassion for myself. Sometimes, this is the best that we can do.

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needs, wants, and mediumship

When clients visit a medium, they’re likely to come with a certain set of expectations. Often times, clients expect to receive a message from a specific person.
However, mediums cannot guarantee that a specific spirit will communicate during the reading. There may be several reasons why this can happen.
I believe that clients are likely to receive messages from loved ones who need to come through. This means that clients may be more likely to hear from those people first. I believe that the spirit world knows what each of us needs on the soul level. In other words, clients will get what they need before getting what they want from a reading.
However, the spirit world has a way of delivering the perfect message at the perfect time. I understand that this can be extremely frustrating. After my father passed away, I wanted to hear from him. At the time, I attended a local spiritualist church, and I would silently ask my father to bring a message through one of the mediums.
For years, I heard nothing from my father. When I had worked through the worst of my grief, he came through.
Now, I understand that I needed to do some serious inner work before I was ready to hear from my father. I believe that everything happens in its own time. If you’re in a similar situation to what I just described, it does not mean that your deceased family member has stopped loving you. In fact, your departed loved ones love you enough to give you exactly what you need at the right time, and never before then.
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