why we get what we need before getting what we want

Why is it that when you are manifesting something, and really looking forward to it, does it seem to take forever to come to you? This could happen for many reasons, and divine timing is one of them.
Also, there are times when we are hung up on getting what we want when the universe is preparing us to receive our desires by giving us what we need first. Just as a squirrel gathers acorns for the winter, we are gathering what we need before getting what we want.
If this process didn’t happen, we may not appreciate what we wanted in the same way.
While this can be frustrating at times, it’s actually the greatest gift that the universe can give us. Also, remember that change doesn’t always happen overnight.
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Just be yourself!

Just be yourself. That’s great advice, but how can we do that in a society where we are expected to follow the so-called acceptable way of doing things? Also, why would we even want to be completely authentic if it’s so darn hard and unpopular?
When we are truly authentic, we are allowing ourselves to be guided by the divine. When we make heart-centered decisions and live divinely inspired lives, we are not allowing the fearful, judgmental, and often self-depracating ego make our decisions for us.
When we honor the divine spark within us, we have more of our soul’s energy to use for manifesting abundance into our lives, discovering and living our soul’s purpose, and creative expression.
Also, we begin to have more compassion and empathy for ourselves and others. When we become our authentic selves, we finally get to take off our masks and truly live in integrity.
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how to take inspired action

In both the spiritual and self-help communities, we are encouraged to take inspired action. What does that really mean, and how, exactly, are we supposed to do that? Where does this inspiration even come from?
For example, when I began this blog, I researched topics and added a few of my insights along the way. In other words, I was taking action, but I was not writing from the heart. This is where our inspiration comes from. True inspiration can also come from our spirit guides, angels, or any other source that connects you to the divine.
If you want to know whether your desire to take action on something in your life is coming from a place of inspiration, ask yourself this question. Is this coming from a place of love, or is it coming from a place of fear, guilt, or obligation?

saying “yes” when it doesn’t make sense

Have you ever said “yes” to your inner guidance even when it didn’t make sense? How did it feel?
When we say “yes” to our intuitive guidance even when that guidance doesn’t make sense to our logical minds, it can bring up a lot of fears and insecurities. We can experience the fear of judgment by others or the fear of letting go of what is familiar to us.
However, saying “yes” to this type of guidance can be extremely rewarding. If we don’t take the risk of following our own inner guidance, we may miss valuable, exciting, and even life-changing opportunities.
For example, when I was ready to pursue my undergraduate degree, I got accepted into two different schools. One of those schools was closer and more affordable, and it would’ve been the logical choice. However, something didn’t feel right.
When I went to visit the second school, it just felt right. Although I work as a psychic medium, I’m glad that I pursued my undergraduate degree in social work.
I was given many opportunities and met many people who had an impact on my life because I followed my inner guidance, even though it didn’t make sense. In fact, that was even before I knew how to tap into my intuition on a daily basis. How does this play out in your own life?
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needs, wants, and mediumship

When clients visit a medium, they’re likely to come with a certain set of expectations. Often times, clients expect to receive a message from a specific person.
However, mediums cannot guarantee that a specific spirit will communicate during the reading. There may be several reasons why this can happen.
I believe that clients are likely to receive messages from loved ones who need to come through. This means that clients may be more likely to hear from those people first. I believe that the spirit world knows what each of us needs on the soul level. In other words, clients will get what they need before getting what they want from a reading.
However, the spirit world has a way of delivering the perfect message at the perfect time. I understand that this can be extremely frustrating. After my father passed away, I wanted to hear from him. At the time, I attended a local spiritualist church, and I would silently ask my father to bring a message through one of the mediums.
For years, I heard nothing from my father. When I had worked through the worst of my grief, he came through.
Now, I understand that I needed to do some serious inner work before I was ready to hear from my father. I believe that everything happens in its own time. If you’re in a similar situation to what I just described, it does not mean that your deceased family member has stopped loving you. In fact, your departed loved ones love you enough to give you exactly what you need at the right time, and never before then.
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Are you settling for less?

Have you ever wondered why it seems easier to stay in the same job, relationship, or town even though it no longer serves you to do so? Have you ever been in a similar situation?
It’s definitely not your fault that you learned to settle for less and play it safe. However, playing it safe and settling for less isn’t the safer option. In fact, it could have unintended consequences.
For example, instead of exploring my spiritual interests, I was prepared to get my masters degree in social work. After all, my friends were taking this route, and they were successful. Also, several people had advised me to take this path. However, the voice of my intuition was not in agreement at all.
It took me a while, but I finally listened to the voice of my intuition. If I had gone right back to school, I would have graduated with twice as much student loan debt. Also, my stress level would’ve been pretty high because I wasn’t being true to myself.
As a result of that, I might not receive the grades that I wanted, and that wouldn’t sit well with me. Lastly, I wouldn’t be guaranteed a job after graduation.
Whenever you are tempted to settle for something in your life because it seems safer, I encourage you to check in with your intuition while weighing your options.

Why take a bath if I’ll just get dirty again?

Why take a bath if I’ll just get dirty again? Why bother making the bed if I’m just going to climb in it at the end of the day? Furthermore, why bother with spiritual development if we’re definitely not perfect, and we can’t fix everyone else or the world at large?
It is not our job to save the world or to fix others, and we’re definitely not expected to be perfect. For me, spiritual development is about connecting with the divine as well as becoming the most authentic version of myself that I can be.
It would be easy for me to dwell on my own imperfections or recent world tragedies and give up on the idea of spiritual development altogether. However, I don’t believe that any of us who are on a spiritual path can afford to do that.
For example, if your life purpose included helping others to remember their divinity, how could you be expected to carry that out if you were to abandon your own spiritual development?
If your life purpose includes bringing a sense of peace and unity within the world, wouldn’t it be beneficial to cultivate that within yourself despite outer circumstances?
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Law of attraction not working? Try this.

One of the most fascinating things that I have encountered on my spiritual journey is the law of attraction and our ability to manifest anything into reality. There was a time when I was depressed, and I felt that something in my life needed to change. Although I’d heard of the law of attraction, I had put it out of my mind for several years.
However, I stumbled across this information once again. I tried many of the recommended law of attraction exercises. However, every time I tried to visualize my desires, I would become distracted. I concluded that nothing would ever change anyway.
After working with a coach, I began to understand why I was manifesting the same things into my life over and over again despite studying the law of attraction. I was doing the same things over and over again while expecting different results. In other words, I was not in alignment with what I was trying to manifest.
Although I was visualizing a happier life for myself, I was depressed, which is a low vibration. Also, I did not have the belief that things would change. You can visualize and write lists of intentions until the cows come home, but if you are not in alignment with your goals and desires, you may not see the results that you expected. However, once your emotions, beliefs, and actions are brought into alignment with your goals and desires, you are more likely to wreap the rewards of your efforts.
For example, someone may be looking for love for several years. They may be seeking out a relationship in all the right ways, but that person secretly believes that she is unlovable. Since this person is out of alignment with the desire of finding love, she may end up bouncing from one relationship to another. Similarly, if I say that I want to save money while believing that I don’t deserve money and spend every penny I have, I am unlikely to manifest more money despite my desire because my beliefs and actions are not in alignment with my desire to have more money.
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You’re not alone, and here’s why.

Have you ever felt completely and utterly alone? If you have, I can guarantee that you’re not the only one who has ever felt that way.
I remember one of those times that really stands out for me. I was about to graduate from college with a social work degree.
It seemed that a number of my fellow social work students knew which area of social work in which they wanted to work. That wasn’t the case for me, though.
Although I enjoyed my internship in the mental health field, I wasn’t sure that I could even get a job in that field. Also, I wasn’t even sure that a social work career was for me.
I felt completely alone with my feelings. Everyone else seemed so confident, and they seemed to know which direction their lives would take. After some time had passed, I realized that I wasn’t alone.
In our society, there is a lot of pressure to figure out exactly what we want to do with the rest of our lives. However, that’s not necessary. In fact, it is very common to struggle with this decision and even change careers several times. If you feel that you haven’t quite found your place in life yet, there’s a good chance that you know of at least one person who’s going through the same thing. Instead of worrying needlessly and feeling isolated, maybe you can support and encourage each other.
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Nothing’s happening, or is it?

Have you ever worked so hard to achieve a goal, but then you don’t seem to notice the results of your efforts? This could happen for several reasons. I’d like to talk about one of those reasons in particular.
While it is your belief that nothing is happening, you may have actually accomplished more than you thought.
For example, there was a time when nothing seemed to be happening in my life despite setting intentions, maintaining a certain mindset, and taking action toward my goals. However, after some reflection, I noticed that I was actually well on my way to achieving my goals.
For instance, during that particular period in my life, I learned to trust my intuition and my spiritual team outside of my readings and ongoing mediumship development. I gained clarity and confidence in myself. Also, I learned to be present, and I learned to take action steps that are aligned with my goals and desires.
Although I did not notice the tangible results of my efforts right away, my goals and desires were beginning to manifest on the energetic level.
If we want to change our external circumstances and manifest our desires into physical form, then we must change our internal beliefs. You are more likely to notice subtle changes in your mindset before you notice a change in your external circumstances. That means that when you think nothing is happening, that may not be the case at all, and you are well on your way to manifesting your goals.

What does it mean to be a lightworker?

When I think of a lightworker, I don’t just think of psychics, mediums, healers, and other spiritual workers. A lightworker is the person who is kind enough to take time out of his or her busy day to help me across a busy street.
Lightworkers are the people who take the time to show compassion, kindness, and generosity. Basically, lightworkers are here to make the world a more peaceful and compassionate place. They are the people who drive our busses, work in schools, and pack our groceries. They are ordinary people who simply offer a smile or word of encouragement.
Lightworkers come from all walks of life, and they don’t need any special qualifications except for empathy and compassion.

I don’t fit in, and neither do you.

Have you ever felt as though you do not fit into society’s norms and expectations? It took me several years to realize that it’s okay.
You were created that way, and so was I. Many of us grew up with parents who were doing the 9 to 5 thing and trying to fit into the neat little boxes that were set out for them. Then, you come along. You may have been told that you’re too sensitive, too shy, or even weird. Maybe you have even been mislabeled as having one or more psychiatric conditions. Maybe you have even tried so hard to please others and to fit in that you actually developed one of those conditions.
Then, you may have decided that the 9 to 5 thing wasn’t really for you, so you ventured out into the unknown while you may have been told to get a real job and get it together.
Guess what? There’s absolutely nothing wrong with you. There is nothing wrong with the people in your life, either. They are doing the best they can with what they know, and so are you. You did not come here to fit into someone else’s box. You came here to be of service in your own unique way.

Have you been visited by the I’m not ready monster?

Whenever I’m about to go for something that I want, there is always a surge of excitement. However, the second that I’m about to take a big leap of faith in the direction of my desires, that little fear monster in my head tries to convince me that I’m not ready.
This can happen for one of two main reasons. Firstly, your intuition may be trying to tell you something. You may need more information before going forward, or the timing may not be right.
The second reason for your visit from the I’m not ready monster is fear. If this is the case, examine this fear more closely. Is it really justified? If not, go ahead with your leap of faith. Remember that you won’t have to do it alone.
You always have support from the spirit world, and you could always talk to a trustworthy friend, hire a coach, or find a mentor.

why you may be struggling to ask the universe for what you want

When we wish to manifest something, it’s important that we understand our needs, wants, and desires. This isn’t as difficult as it sounds.
However, if you’re not used to asking for what you want, this first step may seem complicated. This can happen for a variety of reasons.
I remember when I was taught how to manifest, and I was asked what I wanted. Although I had an answer to that question, in the back of my mind, I was doubting whether or not I could really ask the universe for what I want without seeming greedy.
After all, if I got what I wanted, wasn’t I taking it away from someone else? I came to realize that I had just encountered two limiting beliefs that were keeping me from gaining clarity around what I wanted to attract into my life. Firstly, I was operating under the assumption that it is impolite to ask for too much. Secondly, I believed that if I allowed myself to receive abundance, I would be taking it from someone else.
After I learned that these assumptions were false, I was able to gain clarity about what I wanted to attract into my life.Once we let go of those disempowering beliefs and begin to adopt new ones, gaining clarity around your desires becomes easier.

Too busy for a long meditation? Try this instead.

I received this meditation from my spiritual team, and it has become part of my morning routine ever since. It takes less than five minutes, but I’ve learned that short meditations can be very affective.
Sit or stand as straight as you can, and take several deep breaths until you feel centered. When you are ready, tune into your heart center where you will encounter your soul. Take some time to notice the qualities of your soul. At this point, you can ask your soul for a message, or you can simply send gratitude to that divine part of yourself. Now, you can return to your day feeling empowered and centered.
This meditation can also be helpful in those moments when we feel as though we are lacking confidence, inner strength, wisdom, or compassion for ourselves.

What does it mean to live from the heart?

When you are truly living from your heart, it can be scary, but it can also be filled with joy and excitement. It requires us to give up the tendency to play it safe. In order to live from the heart, we must reach for our own dreams and desires despite what others may think. It’s not always an easy path to walk, but it’s definitely a rewarding one. It requires a great deal of faith in yourself as well as the divine, and it requires a great deal of humility because we are bound to make mistakes along the way.
However, if we live from the heart, we will find freedom because we are no longer bound by the expectations of others. Instead, we are discovering our true divine natures and living by our own expectations. If we follow our hearts, we can do what we came to this earth to do. I’m not suggesting that this path is always smooth, but I encourage you to give it a chance.
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Is it time to stop taking life so seriously?

While some people may choose to view blindness as a tragedy and pity me, I choose to make light of it when the opportunity presents itself.
For example, there were a few times that I was talking to someone, and that person left the room without telling me. I kept talking until I realized that the other person wasn’t answering me. She came back, and I told her what happened. My friend apologized for leaving the room without saying anything, and we both had a good laugh over it.
In one instance, a family friend bought a large container of catnip for his furry companion, and he showed it to me. We were having spaghetti for dinner, and the container of catnip felt similar to the container of parmesan cheese. I poured a small amount into my hand and got ready to sprinkle it onto my spaghetti. My mother grabbed my arm and asked what I was doing, and we had a good laugh.
During both of these incidents, I could have gotten annoyed with myself or even engaged in self-pity. However, I chose to laugh. I refer to these types of incidents as the perks of being blind. Laughter can brighten the most serious or embarrassing situations.
Laughter can also raise one’s vibration, so take some time to have a good laugh at your own expense!

how silence can be a message

How would you react if you tuned into your intuition and there was complete silence? Would you be annoyed, or would you just accept it?
When I connect with Spirit, sometimes I do so in order to ask for clarity and guidance. One evening, I asked my guides a question.
However, I did not receive an answer, or at least that’s what my monkey mind led me to believe.However, the silence was actually a message about being present and taking time to quiet the mind chatter.
If I had allowed myself to become frustrated at the supposed lack of a response from Spirit, I would have missed the message altogether.

how to beat the blues during life transitions

Life transitions are inevitable, and they can sometimes bring a case of the blues with them. Here are some suggestions that have helped me to navigate these times.
First, it is important to remember that these situations are only temporary, and things are likely to get better. You may have to remind yourself of this several times a day.
Also, take time to engage in your favorite activities in order to bring more joy into your life. Don’t forget to take some time to laugh. It may feel forced at first, but just go with it.
Another thing that helps me during these times involves engaging in my spiritual practices. For example, I like to use my daily walks as meditations. During these walking meditations, my thinking mind is out of the way. This allows room for insights, solutions, and a fresh perspective.
Also, make sure you get plenty of rest, even if that means sneaking a power nap into your day.
Don’t forget that it is okay to let yourself cry sometimes. It is healthy to allow yourself to express and release pent-up feelingsFinally, and most importantly, ask for support when you need it.

why you may want to stop asking this question

If you are familiar with the law of attraction, then you already know that affirmations, if used correctly and with other spiritual tools, can help you to manifest your desires. However, did you know that questions can be used as affirmations if traditional affirmations aren’t having the desired affect?
Neither did I! In fact, when I was first introduced to this concept, I nearly laughed. However, this practice transformed my approach to affirmations. Let me give you an example of how this works.
Have you ever said, either out loud or in your head, something like: “What’s wrong with me/this situation in my life?”
Maybe you’ve even noticed that everything that you thought was wrong with you or a specific situation in your life has been reflected back to you. After experiencing this, you may be inclined to think, “Wow. Something must really be wrong with me/this situation.”
That is an example of a negative affirmation, and I’ve definitely been there! After several years of doing that, I finally had enough!I began to ask what was going well in my life.
My experience and outlook began to change. The changes in my life were not immediate. In fact, my perspective shifted gradually, and it definitely took some effort.
Affirmations are definitely not a quick fix or bandaid to cover deep emotional wounds. Now, if I feel like something is going wrong in my life, I take several deep breaths and ask: What is going right? I do this several times until I begin to raise my vibration, and from this state, I can either let the situation go if it is out of my control or take action on the things that I can. Then, everything that is going right in my life is not only reflected back to me, but it is magnified! Isn’t that much more fun than dwelling on all of the perceived wrongness in your life? I dare you to try it!