my big chin and the lie of perfectionism

Earlier in my business, I reached out to a friend and asked her to help me film a video for my Facebook page that would describe my services.

After several attempts, I finally had something that I could use. One of my family members was horrified and tried to get me to take down the video. She said that the camera made me look as though I had a big chin.

I began to feel insecure because I just wanted a perfect profile video. However, the voice of my intuition urged me to leave the video alone. After all, it was the voice of my inner critic that demanded perfection, and my family member reflected it back to me. It’s easier to let go of perfectionism when we can find evidence that we are more than adequate.

I’m functioning just fine with my big chin, thank you very much.

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What You Can Learn from my Bout of Writer’s Block

I’m not good enough. Who am I to do this work? What if no one wants to hear what I have to say?

This is the exact inner dialog that kept me stuck in the illusion commonly known as writer’s block. As a result, creating content for my business was pushed to the bottom of my to-do list. I sincerely apologize for the lack of content lately.

I allowed my mind to convince me of my inadequacy as both a healer and writer..

The ever-present critic can sneak up on us. As a result, our goals and desires can be postponed or completely forgotten. This doesn’t have to be your reality.

Silencing the inner critic takes time, lots of compassion for yourself, willingness to question your beliefs, and tons of patience. I know you can do this!

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So you don’t think you’re creative?

I’ve heard people say that they’re not creative. I would have to disagree with that statement. If you believe that you’re a spiritual being in a physical body, then you are creative in some way.

You may not write a bestseller, compose a beautiful symphony, or paint a single picture in your lifetime. However, we have a spark of divinity within us, and the divine is the creative force in the universe. Therefore, it is only natural for that creative spark of divinity to express itself through us.

What would happen if musicians stopped following their soul’s urge to create? What would’ve happened if scientists like Albert Einstein kept their ideas to themselves? What would your life be like if you didn’t have a hand in creating it? Now, let’s go out there and create something amazing.

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Law of attraction not working? Try this.

One of the most fascinating things that I have encountered on my spiritual journey is the law of attraction and our ability to manifest anything into reality. There was a time when I was depressed, and I felt that something in my life needed to change. Although I’d heard of the law of attraction, I had put it out of my mind for several years.
However, I stumbled across this information once again. I tried many of the recommended law of attraction exercises. However, every time I tried to visualize my desires, I would become distracted. I concluded that nothing would ever change anyway.
After working with a coach, I began to understand why I was manifesting the same things into my life over and over again despite studying the law of attraction. I was doing the same things over and over again while expecting different results. In other words, I was not in alignment with what I was trying to manifest.
Although I was visualizing a happier life for myself, I was depressed, which is a low vibration. Also, I did not have the belief that things would change. You can visualize and write lists of intentions until the cows come home, but if you are not in alignment with your goals and desires, you may not see the results that you expected. However, once your emotions, beliefs, and actions are brought into alignment with your goals and desires, you are more likely to wreap the rewards of your efforts.
For example, someone may be looking for love for several years. They may be seeking out a relationship in all the right ways, but that person secretly believes that she is unlovable. Since this person is out of alignment with the desire of finding love, she may end up bouncing from one relationship to another. Similarly, if I say that I want to save money while believing that I don’t deserve money and spend every penny I have, I am unlikely to manifest more money despite my desire because my beliefs and actions are not in alignment with my desire to have more money.
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positive thinking:Is it worth it?

If you were to turn on a news broadcast, you would probably find many reasons to think negative thoughts. However, if you were to change your perception just a little bit, you might just find reasons to be positive.

Also, if you walked into almost any establishment and eavesdropped for just a minute, you’d most likely hear a series of complaints. Since the world seems to be so full of negativity, it needs our positive energy. There are several benefits to adopting a more positive outlook.

When we are focused on the positive, we have more energy to create the things we want instead of more of the same. We also feel happier, are more pleasant to be around, and actually improve your health. Positive thinking also focuses our attention in the present because we are not fearing the future or despairing over the past. I know it may seem difficult at times, but try replacing those negative thoughts with positive ones. It may take a little time, but you’ll begin to notice a shift, and others will be sure to notice, too!

self-care:Is it selfish?

At one time, self-care was a foreign concept to me. In fact, when someone suggested it, I cringed at the idea. I believed that I was selfish if I put myself first.

That’s because we are conditioned to put others first, no matter what the cost. Early on, we are taught that it is wrong to be selfish.

However, I’d like to bust that belief wide open! When we take time out to care for ourselves, we actually have more to give to others. That’s because our energy has been restored. It also helps us to be more alert, positive, and aware.

Now, let’s look at the consequences of neglecting ourselves while others become our priority. When I was in college, I had a close friend who was very draining on my energy. In retrospect, I see that she wasn’t the only needy person in the relationship. During one semester, she became anxious and depressed, and it became so severe that she feared that she could not function. Even though I was depressed myself, I catered to her every need. While I thought that I was also helping myself by focusing on her problems, I felt hopeless because I couldn’t help her. During that time, I lost sleep, consumed carbs and caffeine at an alarming rate, and could not concentrate on my assignments. I was also in our college’s chapel choir and participated in the social work club. Another friend saw that I was struggling and offered to help with my needy friend. That was a perfectly suitable arrangement, at least until superfriend came down with strep throat and mono at the same time. She became so exhausted that I ended up caring for both of them.

One day, I just crashed. I was so depressed and exhausted that I could not get out of bed. It turned out that I was so busy that I forgot about me.

There are several ways to turn that around. I could have cared for myself by asking for help with my tendency toward codependency and feelings of hopelessness. Also, I could have taken several breaks during the day and set boundaries on my time and energy. Also, I could have simply said no to my friends and referred them to the appropriate professionals. By doing those things, I could have avoided pain and suffering.

However, we don’t have to wait for a crisis before we adopt a self-care routine. This does not have to be complicated or expensive. Some self-care strategies include meditation, exercise, eating a healthful diet, taking a hot bath, or seeking support from family and friends. There are many ways to make you a priority in your life, so I also encourage you to come up with your own techniques and practice them as often as you can.

transforming limiting beliefs 3:calling all angels

If the last two techniques didn’t resonate with you, maybe this one will. It’s as simple as asking the angels for help.

You are not required to practice a specific religion or spiritual belief to ask for their assistance. Best of all, you don’t have to reach a certain level of initiation, spend hours in meditation, or be a famous psychic. All it takes is a little bit of faith.

The next time you are plagued by a limiting belief or faced with a seemingly insurmountable problem, take a deep breath, relax, and say a quick prayer, and God and the angels will come to your aide.

It doesn’t even need to be a formal prayer. It could be as easy as saying: Angels, I need your help with ___, and I thank you. You may or may not notice a difference right away, but these heavenly beings do hear our prayers, and they do answer.

For more information on angel communication, I highly recommend Doreen Virtue’s books on amazon. Also, if you enjoy my blog and would like an intuitive reading, I can be contacted at jsisco2013 (at) gmail.com. This concludes my three-part series on transforming limiting beliefs.