looking back and reaching forward

For me, 2017 was a year of ups, downs, and everything in between. Did I reach the goals that I set at the beginning of 2017? No, and that’s okay.
I had the pleasure of entering a beauty pageant for blind women, which was way out of my comfort zone. However, by taking that chance, I gave myself the opportunity to expand my social circle, increase my confidence, and have some fun all at the same time. I made a new friend who lived in the same small town as me for years, but I was too shy to get to know people.
Also, I pushed past some of my insecurities and increased my online presence. I gained clarity around what I wanted in my life and my business.
Also, I released a lot of stuck emotions that were holding me back. No, I did not reach my goals in 2017, but I built some really strong foundations that will help me to reach my goals in 2018.
If you didn’t reach your 2017 goals and intentions, have compassion for yourself. Perhaps you needed to accomplish some things before you could achieve your goals. Maybe those goals and intentions weren’t meant for you in the first place because you were meant to receive something even better. Either way, here’s to an amazing and blessed 2018!


why self-love is a gift from God

What does it really mean to have a healthy sense of self-love? It requires us to give ourselves a break when we make mistakes. After, mistakes are simply opportunities for learning and growth.
When we love and value ourselves, we are more likely to follow our hearts instead of our endless lists of fears, excuses, and self-doubt. When we learn to love ourselves more, we stop taking action from a place of obligation.
Lastly, when we become more loving and compassionate toward ourselves, it becomes easier to see the divinity in everything. We become happier and more peaceful. How can you love and value yourself even more today than you did yesterday?

What does it mean to be a lightworker?

When I think of a lightworker, I don’t just think of psychics, mediums, healers, and other spiritual workers. A lightworker is the person who is kind enough to take time out of his or her busy day to help me across a busy street.
Lightworkers are the people who take the time to show compassion, kindness, and generosity. Basically, lightworkers are here to make the world a more peaceful and compassionate place. They are the people who drive our busses, work in schools, and pack our groceries. They are ordinary people who simply offer a smile or word of encouragement.
Lightworkers come from all walks of life, and they don’t need any special qualifications except for empathy and compassion.


Compassion Isn’t Just for Everyone Else

If you’re anything like me, there are times that you have an unlimited amount of compassion for everyone else but you. If I don’t practice having compassion for myself, I tend to absorb the energy of others very quickly. As a result, I can become overwhelmed. Sound familiar? If so, you can definitely benefit from being gentle with yourself. For example, if someone seems to be directing their anger in your direction, it does not mean that you are a bad person. In fact, the other person’s anger probably had very little, if anything, to do with you.
It’s time to give yourself a break. Stop focusing on everything that you’re doing wrong, and praise yourself for all that you’ve done well. If you make a mistake, focus on the lessons that showed up for you, and then move on. Although it can be hard to believe at times, there is nothing that can diminish our worth. Each day, make the decision to show yourself some compassion. You deserve it!


experiencing loss on the holidays

For many people, the holidays are an exciting time of family, friends, food, and gifts. However, there are also people who are dealing with the pain of losing a loved one. Here are some tips for making those losses a little more barable during this holiday season.
The most important thing that you can do during this time is to have compassion for yourself. Remember that you have just experienced a painful loss. You are not expected to “get over it” or “snap out of it already!” Everyone processes grief in his or her own way, so give yourself the gift of that time.
Whether or not you believe in life after death, memories of your loved ones don’t die with them. Remember the good times you’ve had with them.
Do something to memorialize them such as lighting a candle or keeping a favorite picture.
Talk to someone, and don’t hold those painful feelings inside of you. A well-trained grief counselor, pastor, medium, or support group can help you to put these emotions into perspective.
Also, spending time with a friend or family member could be exactly what you need.
Honor your feelings. Know that sometimes you will feel sad, happy, and angry at the same time.
Lastly, spend as much time as you can with those who are still living on the physical plane. They will appreciate it, and you will know that you spent as much time with them as you could before it is their time to go home to the spirit world.
Let me know if any of these tips were helpful. I’d love to hear from you!
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