Have you ever realized that sometimes, we treat others better than we treat ourselves? For example, I wouldn’t yell at another person in order to tell her what she should’ve done. I definitely wouldn’t tell that person that she wasn’t good enough or that she can’t do something.
However, I’ve often caught myself saying these very things to myself. We wouldn’t allow others to treat us that way, so why do we do that to ourselves?
I challenge every one of you to notice these thoughts as they come up. There is no need to judge them, though. Instead, know that you have the ability to choose a more empowering thought next time.
Several weeks ago, I was taking my daily walk when I happened to meet up with a friend. Instead of walking, I ended up going to her house for dinner. She invited me to a jazz club where her friend’s band was performing that night.
Since I knew this particular friend of hers, I decided to be spontaneous and go with her. As we were driving home from that event, I commented to her that I was glad that I decided to be spontaneous because I got to enjoy three of my favorite things. I also had another observation about that night. I wasn’t stuck in the past or planning the rest of the week in my head.
I was fully engaged in the present and enjoying every minute of it. It’s important to learn to do this because when we are engaged in the present moment, we’re not concerned with past mistakes, worrying about the future, or engaging in our fears. When we live outside of the present moment, it can take us away from seeing the truth of who we really are. Outside of the present moment, it’s difficult to see situations and people from an objective point of view. Also, when we are ruminating about the past or worrying about the future, it’s difficult to experience joy. Take a moment today to practice presence, and you’ll be pleasantly surprised at the outcome.
Yesterday, I had the opportunity to attend an arts inclusion event with people who are blind and visually impaired as well as sighted volunteers. In honor of Earth day, we were given clay and asked to sculpt something that reminds us of our planet. I decided to attempt a cat sculpture. I started with the head and formed a little cat face. I shaped its little ears, little nose and a mouth that was open as if the cat was about to meow.
Then, I created the cat’s body, its legs, and finally the tail. After I had finished, the cat felt slightly deformed. When I tried to fix it, the ears fell off, the mouth completely disappeared, the tail fell off, and the legs collapsed into themselves. What would’ve happened if I didn’t try to fix it? I realize that it is easy to have some resistence to the concept of being present, and it’s not always easy to do. However, it’s a much more enjoyable way to live life.
Instead of trying to make everything perfect and forcing life to comply with our expectations, maybe we need to start by accepting ourselves and circumstances exactly as they are right now. Then, we can decide whether changes need to be made at all.
Have you ever prayed for something and/or set an intention, but you never seem to receive an answer? It can be extremely frustrating and disappointing, especially when we are going through a difficult time.
However, I encourage you to consider another perspective. When we send out our prayers and intentions into the universe, are we open to receiving the subtle signs that our prayers are being answered even before we speak them? Perhaps we’re engaging in our constant mind chatter. There have been times when the constant mind chatter has kept me up at night, and it has even kept me from hearing my intuition.
Another reason that we may not believe that our prayers are being answered may be that we are expecting the answer to come to us in a certain way.For example, we may expect our answer to come to us in a dream. However, it may come to us through a song on the radio, a vision, or a gut feeling. If we are deadest on receiving the answer in a dream, we may miss the message altogether and assume that Spirit didn’t hear our prayers and intentions. As a result, we continue to repeat the cycle of asking, expecting a specific answer to come in a neat little package, and miss the message altogether.
Also, there are times when the answer is that we need to wait for something better, or maybe it just isn’t the right time. When I become frustrated by so-called unanswered prayers, Spirit assures me that they’re always listening.
When making an important decision, how do we know which choice is the “right” one? After all, what if that one decision will affect you for the rest of your life? Here are a few things to consider.
First of all, we live in a society which tends to judge things in black and white terms such as right and wrong. While this may be useful in some situations, it can cause us to become confused and indecisive. Each moment of every day, we are making choices. While some choices can lead to unwanted consequences and lead us down another path. Was it really the wrong decision, or did it give you the opportunity to choose something different the next time around?
Here is another thing to consider. When making decisions, do you make them from a place of fear and doubt? If the answer to that question is yes, you have an opportunity to explore your fears and doubts. Then, when you have started to work through the fear, you can make a more empowering decision.
For me, 2017 was a year of ups, downs, and everything in between. Did I reach the goals that I set at the beginning of 2017? No, and that’s okay.
I had the pleasure of entering a beauty pageant for blind women, which was way out of my comfort zone. However, by taking that chance, I gave myself the opportunity to expand my social circle, increase my confidence, and have some fun all at the same time. I made a new friend who lived in the same small town as me for years, but I was too shy to get to know people.
Also, I pushed past some of my insecurities and increased my online presence. I gained clarity around what I wanted in my life and my business.
Also, I released a lot of stuck emotions that were holding me back. No, I did not reach my goals in 2017, but I built some really strong foundations that will help me to reach my goals in 2018.
If you didn’t reach your 2017 goals and intentions, have compassion for yourself. Perhaps you needed to accomplish some things before you could achieve your goals. Maybe those goals and intentions weren’t meant for you in the first place because you were meant to receive something even better. Either way, here’s to an amazing and blessed 2018!
Have you ever said or thought phrases like, “That’s not good enough?”
While there are people who can easily shove these occasional thoughts aside, there are others who are holding onto an underlying belief that they’re not enough.
When I was in grade school and the teacher would ask me a question, I would claim that I didn’t know the answer even when I did. I was afraid to speak up in class because my answers might not be good enough. There were times when I felt that I needed to minimize my success and downplay my accomplishments because I wanted people to like me. Otherwise, I just wasn’t good enough. These are just some examples of how this belief can show up for us in our lives.
However, this does not have to be the case for any of us. First of all, see this belief for the lie that it is.
After all, if we are infinite spiritual beings who happen to be residing in human bodies at the moment, how can we truly be anything less than enough? Also, it can be helpful to explore the reasons for adopting these beliefs. During this process, I encourage you to seek support in order to deal with the strong feelings that may come up. While I still have this belief popping up from time to time, I try to keep things in perspective and have lots of compassion for myself. Sometimes, this is the best that we can do.