When making an important decision, how do we know which choice is the “right” one? After all, what if that one decision will affect you for the rest of your life? Here are a few things to consider.
First of all, we live in a society which tends to judge things in black and white terms such as right and wrong. While this may be useful in some situations, it can cause us to become confused and indecisive. Each moment of every day, we are making choices. While some choices can lead to unwanted consequences and lead us down another path. Was it really the wrong decision, or did it give you the opportunity to choose something different the next time around?
Here is another thing to consider. When making decisions, do you make them from a place of fear and doubt? If the answer to that question is yes, you have an opportunity to explore your fears and doubts. Then, when you have started to work through the fear, you can make a more empowering decision.
For me, 2017 was a year of ups, downs, and everything in between. Did I reach the goals that I set at the beginning of 2017? No, and that’s okay.
I had the pleasure of entering a beauty pageant for blind women, which was way out of my comfort zone. However, by taking that chance, I gave myself the opportunity to expand my social circle, increase my confidence, and have some fun all at the same time. I made a new friend who lived in the same small town as me for years, but I was too shy to get to know people.
Also, I pushed past some of my insecurities and increased my online presence. I gained clarity around what I wanted in my life and my business.
Also, I released a lot of stuck emotions that were holding me back. No, I did not reach my goals in 2017, but I built some really strong foundations that will help me to reach my goals in 2018.
If you didn’t reach your 2017 goals and intentions, have compassion for yourself. Perhaps you needed to accomplish some things before you could achieve your goals. Maybe those goals and intentions weren’t meant for you in the first place because you were meant to receive something even better. Either way, here’s to an amazing and blessed 2018!
Have you ever said or thought phrases like, “That’s not good enough?”
While there are people who can easily shove these occasional thoughts aside, there are others who are holding onto an underlying belief that they’re not enough.
When I was in grade school and the teacher would ask me a question, I would claim that I didn’t know the answer even when I did. I was afraid to speak up in class because my answers might not be good enough. There were times when I felt that I needed to minimize my success and downplay my accomplishments because I wanted people to like me. Otherwise, I just wasn’t good enough. These are just some examples of how this belief can show up for us in our lives.
However, this does not have to be the case for any of us. First of all, see this belief for the lie that it is.
After all, if we are infinite spiritual beings who happen to be residing in human bodies at the moment, how can we truly be anything less than enough? Also, it can be helpful to explore the reasons for adopting these beliefs. During this process, I encourage you to seek support in order to deal with the strong feelings that may come up. While I still have this belief popping up from time to time, I try to keep things in perspective and have lots of compassion for myself. Sometimes, this is the best that we can do.
What does it really mean to have a healthy sense of self-love? It requires us to give ourselves a break when we make mistakes. After, mistakes are simply opportunities for learning and growth.
When we love and value ourselves, we are more likely to follow our hearts instead of our endless lists of fears, excuses, and self-doubt. When we learn to love ourselves more, we stop taking action from a place of obligation.
Lastly, when we become more loving and compassionate toward ourselves, it becomes easier to see the divinity in everything. We become happier and more peaceful. How can you love and value yourself even more today than you did yesterday?
Just be yourself. That’s great advice, but how can we do that in a society where we are expected to follow the so-called acceptable way of doing things? Also, why would we even want to be completely authentic if it’s so darn hard and unpopular?
When we are truly authentic, we are allowing ourselves to be guided by the divine. When we make heart-centered decisions and live divinely inspired lives, we are not allowing the fearful, judgmental, and often self-depracating ego make our decisions for us.
When we honor the divine spark within us, we have more of our soul’s energy to use for manifesting abundance into our lives, discovering and living our soul’s purpose, and creative expression.
Also, we begin to have more compassion and empathy for ourselves and others. When we become our authentic selves, we finally get to take off our masks and truly live in integrity.
In both the spiritual and self-help communities, we are encouraged to take inspired action. What does that really mean, and how, exactly, are we supposed to do that? Where does this inspiration even come from?
For example, when I began this blog, I researched topics and added a few of my insights along the way. In other words, I was taking action, but I was not writing from the heart. This is where our inspiration comes from. True inspiration can also come from our spirit guides, angels, or any other source that connects you to the divine.
If you want to know whether your desire to take action on something in your life is coming from a place of inspiration, ask yourself this question. Is this coming from a place of love, or is it coming from a place of fear, guilt, or obligation?
Have you ever felt completely and utterly alone? If you have, I can guarantee that you’re not the only one who has ever felt that way.
I remember one of those times that really stands out for me. I was about to graduate from college with a social work degree.
It seemed that a number of my fellow social work students knew which area of social work in which they wanted to work. That wasn’t the case for me, though.
Although I enjoyed my internship in the mental health field, I wasn’t sure that I could even get a job in that field. Also, I wasn’t even sure that a social work career was for me.
I felt completely alone with my feelings. Everyone else seemed so confident, and they seemed to know which direction their lives would take. After some time had passed, I realized that I wasn’t alone.
In our society, there is a lot of pressure to figure out exactly what we want to do with the rest of our lives. However, that’s not necessary. In fact, it is very common to struggle with this decision and even change careers several times. If you feel that you haven’t quite found your place in life yet, there’s a good chance that you know of at least one person who’s going through the same thing. Instead of worrying needlessly and feeling isolated, maybe you can support and encourage each other.
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