Law of attraction not working? Try this.

One of the most fascinating things that I have encountered on my spiritual journey is the law of attraction and our ability to manifest anything into reality. There was a time when I was depressed, and I felt that something in my life needed to change. Although I’d heard of the law of attraction, I had put it out of my mind for several years.
However, I stumbled across this information once again. I tried many of the recommended law of attraction exercises. However, every time I tried to visualize my desires, I would become distracted. I concluded that nothing would ever change anyway.
After working with a coach, I began to understand why I was manifesting the same things into my life over and over again despite studying the law of attraction. I was doing the same things over and over again while expecting different results. In other words, I was not in alignment with what I was trying to manifest.
Although I was visualizing a happier life for myself, I was depressed, which is a low vibration. Also, I did not have the belief that things would change. You can visualize and write lists of intentions until the cows come home, but if you are not in alignment with your goals and desires, you may not see the results that you expected. However, once your emotions, beliefs, and actions are brought into alignment with your goals and desires, you are more likely to wreap the rewards of your efforts.
For example, someone may be looking for love for several years. They may be seeking out a relationship in all the right ways, but that person secretly believes that she is unlovable. Since this person is out of alignment with the desire of finding love, she may end up bouncing from one relationship to another. Similarly, if I say that I want to save money while believing that I don’t deserve money and spend every penny I have, I am unlikely to manifest more money despite my desire because my beliefs and actions are not in alignment with my desire to have more money.
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experiencing loss on the holidays

For many people, the holidays are an exciting time of family, friends, food, and gifts. However, there are also people who are dealing with the pain of losing a loved one. Here are some tips for making those losses a little more barable during this holiday season.
The most important thing that you can do during this time is to have compassion for yourself. Remember that you have just experienced a painful loss. You are not expected to “get over it” or “snap out of it already!” Everyone processes grief in his or her own way, so give yourself the gift of that time.
Whether or not you believe in life after death, memories of your loved ones don’t die with them. Remember the good times you’ve had with them.
Do something to memorialize them such as lighting a candle or keeping a favorite picture.
Talk to someone, and don’t hold those painful feelings inside of you. A well-trained grief counselor, pastor, medium, or support group can help you to put these emotions into perspective.
Also, spending time with a friend or family member could be exactly what you need.
Honor your feelings. Know that sometimes you will feel sad, happy, and angry at the same time.
Lastly, spend as much time as you can with those who are still living on the physical plane. They will appreciate it, and you will know that you spent as much time with them as you could before it is their time to go home to the spirit world.
Let me know if any of these tips were helpful. I’d love to hear from you!
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self-care:Is it selfish?

At one time, self-care was a foreign concept to me. In fact, when someone suggested it, I cringed at the idea. I believed that I was selfish if I put myself first.

That’s because we are conditioned to put others first, no matter what the cost. Early on, we are taught that it is wrong to be selfish.

However, I’d like to bust that belief wide open! When we take time out to care for ourselves, we actually have more to give to others. That’s because our energy has been restored. It also helps us to be more alert, positive, and aware.

Now, let’s look at the consequences of neglecting ourselves while others become our priority. When I was in college, I had a close friend who was very draining on my energy. In retrospect, I see that she wasn’t the only needy person in the relationship. During one semester, she became anxious and depressed, and it became so severe that she feared that she could not function. Even though I was depressed myself, I catered to her every need. While I thought that I was also helping myself by focusing on her problems, I felt hopeless because I couldn’t help her. During that time, I lost sleep, consumed carbs and caffeine at an alarming rate, and could not concentrate on my assignments. I was also in our college’s chapel choir and participated in the social work club. Another friend saw that I was struggling and offered to help with my needy friend. That was a perfectly suitable arrangement, at least until superfriend came down with strep throat and mono at the same time. She became so exhausted that I ended up caring for both of them.

One day, I just crashed. I was so depressed and exhausted that I could not get out of bed. It turned out that I was so busy that I forgot about me.

There are several ways to turn that around. I could have cared for myself by asking for help with my tendency toward codependency and feelings of hopelessness. Also, I could have taken several breaks during the day and set boundaries on my time and energy. Also, I could have simply said no to my friends and referred them to the appropriate professionals. By doing those things, I could have avoided pain and suffering.

However, we don’t have to wait for a crisis before we adopt a self-care routine. This does not have to be complicated or expensive. Some self-care strategies include meditation, exercise, eating a healthful diet, taking a hot bath, or seeking support from family and friends. There are many ways to make you a priority in your life, so I also encourage you to come up with your own techniques and practice them as often as you can.