Have you ever realized that sometimes, we treat others better than we treat ourselves? For example, I wouldn’t yell at another person in order to tell her what she should’ve done. I definitely wouldn’t tell that person that she wasn’t good enough or that she can’t do something.
However, I’ve often caught myself saying these very things to myself. We wouldn’t allow others to treat us that way, so why do we do that to ourselves?
I challenge every one of you to notice these thoughts as they come up. There is no need to judge them, though. Instead, know that you have the ability to choose a more empowering thought next time.
Yesterday, I had the opportunity to attend an arts inclusion event with people who are blind and visually impaired as well as sighted volunteers. In honor of Earth day, we were given clay and asked to sculpt something that reminds us of our planet. I decided to attempt a cat sculpture. I started with the head and formed a little cat face. I shaped its little ears, little nose and a mouth that was open as if the cat was about to meow.
Then, I created the cat’s body, its legs, and finally the tail. After I had finished, the cat felt slightly deformed. When I tried to fix it, the ears fell off, the mouth completely disappeared, the tail fell off, and the legs collapsed into themselves. What would’ve happened if I didn’t try to fix it? I realize that it is easy to have some resistence to the concept of being present, and it’s not always easy to do. However, it’s a much more enjoyable way to live life.
Instead of trying to make everything perfect and forcing life to comply with our expectations, maybe we need to start by accepting ourselves and circumstances exactly as they are right now. Then, we can decide whether changes need to be made at all.
Have you ever prayed for something and/or set an intention, but you never seem to receive an answer? It can be extremely frustrating and disappointing, especially when we are going through a difficult time.
However, I encourage you to consider another perspective. When we send out our prayers and intentions into the universe, are we open to receiving the subtle signs that our prayers are being answered even before we speak them? Perhaps we’re engaging in our constant mind chatter. There have been times when the constant mind chatter has kept me up at night, and it has even kept me from hearing my intuition.
Another reason that we may not believe that our prayers are being answered may be that we are expecting the answer to come to us in a certain way.For example, we may expect our answer to come to us in a dream. However, it may come to us through a song on the radio, a vision, or a gut feeling. If we are deadest on receiving the answer in a dream, we may miss the message altogether and assume that Spirit didn’t hear our prayers and intentions. As a result, we continue to repeat the cycle of asking, expecting a specific answer to come in a neat little package, and miss the message altogether.
Also, there are times when the answer is that we need to wait for something better, or maybe it just isn’t the right time. When I become frustrated by so-called unanswered prayers, Spirit assures me that they’re always listening.
When making an important decision, how do we know which choice is the “right” one? After all, what if that one decision will affect you for the rest of your life? Here are a few things to consider.
First of all, we live in a society which tends to judge things in black and white terms such as right and wrong. While this may be useful in some situations, it can cause us to become confused and indecisive. Each moment of every day, we are making choices. While some choices can lead to unwanted consequences and lead us down another path. Was it really the wrong decision, or did it give you the opportunity to choose something different the next time around?
Here is another thing to consider. When making decisions, do you make them from a place of fear and doubt? If the answer to that question is yes, you have an opportunity to explore your fears and doubts. Then, when you have started to work through the fear, you can make a more empowering decision.
Although I have resisted journaling as a spiritual practice for a while, I have to admit that it is a powerful tool for healing and growth. Recently, I’ve been inspired to use journaling as a tool for setting intentions for the day. This exercise only takes a few minutes, and it can be very powerful.
Either first thing in the morning or prior to going to bed, I journal about the upcoming day as if I’ve already experienced it. After completing this exercise, I’ve found that a majority of my intentions had come to pass. However, there were one or two of my intentions that haven’t manifested because I allowed my mind to convince me that they wouldn’t happen. If you plan to try this exercise, don’t be discouraged if your intentions don’t manifest right away.
Sometimes, we allow our minds to sabotage our efforts. Also, the universe needs time to work its magic.
I have an important message for you today. You’re not broken. All of us are whole because we are divine sacred beings. How can I say these things with confidence?
There was a period of my life where I suffered from severe depression. I didn’t want to get out of bed in the morning, and I wondered if life meant anything at all. I felt that it would never end.
During this time, my father passed away, I lost my favorite cat to a debilitating brain condition, and I couldn’t see my life improving any time soon. In fact, if someone had tried to convince me that I wasn’t broken, I wouldn’t have believed them.
However, I have chosen a more empowering perspective. I truly believe that this dark period of my life acted as a catalyst for remembering my own inherent divinity and beginning to return to our natural state of wholeness. I know that I am a work in progress, and that’s okay. I also know that I’m not broken, and I never was. However, I don’t want you to simply take my word for it. I want you to experience this truth for yourself. You deserve it!
Have you ever said or thought phrases like, “That’s not good enough?”
While there are people who can easily shove these occasional thoughts aside, there are others who are holding onto an underlying belief that they’re not enough.
When I was in grade school and the teacher would ask me a question, I would claim that I didn’t know the answer even when I did. I was afraid to speak up in class because my answers might not be good enough. There were times when I felt that I needed to minimize my success and downplay my accomplishments because I wanted people to like me. Otherwise, I just wasn’t good enough. These are just some examples of how this belief can show up for us in our lives.
However, this does not have to be the case for any of us. First of all, see this belief for the lie that it is.
After all, if we are infinite spiritual beings who happen to be residing in human bodies at the moment, how can we truly be anything less than enough? Also, it can be helpful to explore the reasons for adopting these beliefs. During this process, I encourage you to seek support in order to deal with the strong feelings that may come up. While I still have this belief popping up from time to time, I try to keep things in perspective and have lots of compassion for myself. Sometimes, this is the best that we can do.