my big chin and the lie of perfectionism

Earlier in my business, I reached out to a friend and asked her to help me film a video for my Facebook page that would describe my services.

After several attempts, I finally had something that I could use. One of my family members was horrified and tried to get me to take down the video. She said that the camera made me look as though I had a big chin.

I began to feel insecure because I just wanted a perfect profile video. However, the voice of my intuition urged me to leave the video alone. After all, it was the voice of my inner critic that demanded perfection, and my family member reflected it back to me. It’s easier to let go of perfectionism when we can find evidence that we are more than adequate.

I’m functioning just fine with my big chin, thank you very much.

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What You Can Learn from my Bout of Writer’s Block

I’m not good enough. Who am I to do this work? What if no one wants to hear what I have to say?

This is the exact inner dialog that kept me stuck in the illusion commonly known as writer’s block. As a result, creating content for my business was pushed to the bottom of my to-do list. I sincerely apologize for the lack of content lately.

I allowed my mind to convince me of my inadequacy as both a healer and writer..

The ever-present critic can sneak up on us. As a result, our goals and desires can be postponed or completely forgotten. This doesn’t have to be your reality.

Silencing the inner critic takes time, lots of compassion for yourself, willingness to question your beliefs, and tons of patience. I know you can do this!

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Too many obstacles?

Yesterday, I was taking a walk when I noticed something. On two separate occasions, my path was almost completely blocked by obstacles.

There was a sidewalk that was completely blocked by several cars. On that occasion, someone helped me to navigate around them so I could continue along my usual route. On the second occasion, several bikes were blocking the entrance to where I was trying to go.

This time, someone moved them out of the way so that I could pass.

I began to think about how the external environment can be a reflection of our inner dialog and our perceptions of what is going on in our lives.

When faced with perceived obstacles in life, we have at least three choices. We can choose to ask the divine or another person to assist us to navigate around it. We can also work with Spirit to remove obstacles from our path. Sometimes, we may choose to abandon the obstacle-ridden path altogether. Either way, you are exactly where you are supposed to be.

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Feeling overwhelmed? Try this instead.

At an early age, we’re often conditioned to remain in a constant state of overwhelm. Instead of focusing on the task at hand, we want to know the outcome of the entire project. How much more progress would we make if we focused on what was right in front of us?

In school, I’ve been asked where I see myself in five years. What if we were taught to take one small step toward our goals and then trust that the rest would unfold as it is meant to? Imagine what would happen if you took action from a place of stillness rather than fear and overwhelm.

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how to use journalling as a manifesting tool

Although I have resisted journaling as a spiritual practice for a while, I have to admit that it is a powerful tool for healing and growth. Recently, I’ve been inspired to use journaling as a tool for setting intentions for the day. This exercise only takes a few minutes, and it can be very powerful.
Either first thing in the morning or prior to going to bed, I journal about the upcoming day as if I’ve already experienced it. After completing this exercise, I’ve found that a majority of my intentions had come to pass. However, there were one or two of my intentions that haven’t manifested because I allowed my mind to convince me that they wouldn’t happen. If you plan to try this exercise, don’t be discouraged if your intentions don’t manifest right away.
Sometimes, we allow our minds to sabotage our efforts. Also, the universe needs time to work its magic.

That’s not good enough!

Have you ever said or thought phrases like, “That’s not good enough?”
While there are people who can easily shove these occasional thoughts aside, there are others who are holding onto an underlying belief that they’re not enough.
When I was in grade school and the teacher would ask me a question, I would claim that I didn’t know the answer even when I did. I was afraid to speak up in class because my answers might not be good enough. There were times when I felt that I needed to minimize my success and downplay my accomplishments because I wanted people to like me. Otherwise, I just wasn’t good enough. These are just some examples of how this belief can show up for us in our lives.
However, this does not have to be the case for any of us. First of all, see this belief for the lie that it is.
After all, if we are infinite spiritual beings who happen to be residing in human bodies at the moment, how can we truly be anything less than enough? Also, it can be helpful to explore the reasons for adopting these beliefs. During this process, I encourage you to seek support in order to deal with the strong feelings that may come up. While I still have this belief popping up from time to time, I try to keep things in perspective and have lots of compassion for myself. Sometimes, this is the best that we can do.

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Have you been visited by the I’m not ready monster?

Whenever I’m about to go for something that I want, there is always a surge of excitement. However, the second that I’m about to take a big leap of faith in the direction of my desires, that little fear monster in my head tries to convince me that I’m not ready.
This can happen for one of two main reasons. Firstly, your intuition may be trying to tell you something. You may need more information before going forward, or the timing may not be right.
The second reason for your visit from the I’m not ready monster is fear. If this is the case, examine this fear more closely. Is it really justified? If not, go ahead with your leap of faith. Remember that you won’t have to do it alone.
You always have support from the spirit world, and you could always talk to a trustworthy friend, hire a coach, or find a mentor.